Full, But Not Full

Warning: I’m going to be short and direct with this blog--no soft-stepping here. Last year was my best year in real estate, venturing outside of my comfort zone, which is HUGE for me. The problem was it went by so fast! I made sure I said yes to just about everything, I stayed busy and got busier as the year went on. It was all good. If I’m honest, it made me feel important being so busy.  I also got sick more this year than I have in the past ten years. I worried and stressed more, got angry, and didn’t enjoy my business as much, and didn’t get to as much time with the people I care about as I would have liked. Have you ever been there--Filled your life up, but not feeling full? Well, it taught me a valuable lesson. Having the right mindset makes all the difference.

Don’t get me wrong. Everything I did I felt good about doing. The activities were fun, important and worthwhile, and every client appreciated. But I stayed so busy I actually forgot some activities--I mean I didn’t even get them in my calendar! I was just going from one thing to the next. My memories are of doing, going, and the feeling of busy-ness...not truly noteworthy.

I know the times I felt “full” were when I was enjoying a cup of coffee on my patio, time spent with family and friends, and when I was helping people in my business and community. These are the things that bring me joy. So, that got me thinking: why don’t I do more of that and less of “things”?

This year, I’m going to slow down, say no, enjoy, savor, and relax more. I’m going to work to fill my life with meaning, love, warmth, happiness and joy. How, you ask? Good question! I’m not sure I have the perfect, solve-all-my-problems answer, but I know I need to take time to nurture my spirit, and I want to think of others and to focus on relationships more than activities. At the end of 2018, I want to look back and feel full, in a sense. Now I know this is going to require a lot of me. Will I be busy? Most likely. But my focus will be different than last year. And really, at the end of the day, what truly makes me feel fulfilled is not a set of accomplishments (made X-amount of money, got some award or certificate, went to here and there, or attended so many activities), but the feelings and memories of being with friends, family, and helping others. Those put a smile on my face; those make me feel loved, fulfilled.

So, that’s it. My goals are simple: to nurture my spirit, soul and relationships. If you get a call, text or email from me wanting to catch up or meet, don’t be surprised. I’m just working on my goals. What about you? Where will you be putting your focus this year? I’d love to hear all about it!